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Jan 08, 2013
2:59 AM
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Among the many, many difficulties that stepfamilies face throughout the first years of their blending monster beats pas cher process, enjoying holidays seems to be one of the toughest. Your kids and stepkids have had quite a year, preceding this season.Now, into the middle of a home still trying to establish some sort of familiarity, come the holidays. And, rather than coming as a break from the day to day tension, special family celebrations tend to add to the confusion and stress. Just when you thought you had some sort of routine worked out and that you had figured out this new clan, everyone goes completely nuts over a "joyous" occasion. Now you find that dynamite can indeed come in small packages. Such minute matters as ... when to open presents - Christmas Eve or Morning,who to buy presents for - immediate family or in-laws or ex-grandparents,what to fix for a "traditional" holiday family dinner - every family has its own special traditions that are most important,or even which ornaments from which family get hung where on the family Christmas tree, ... can have normally civilized families (which leaves out many stepfamilies!) at each other's cheap beats by dre headphones throats. Well, here are a dozen suggestions to help ease the way. (Sort of a "12 Ways of Christmas.") These suggestions come from a variety of sources, including our own experiences and those of the hundreds of stepfamilies we've worked with. I'll a-Have a Blue Christmas What is it about the end of year holidays - Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years - that cause so much insanity in so many people? Even well-adjusted, normal folks seem to shut down their reasoning skills at these times. And that's the normal minority of families who aren't dealing with the added bonuses we stepfamilies enjoy. We get to sweat over the logistics and timetables of not one, but two households' holiday schedules. Just as you are frantically trying to coordinate everyone's schedule in your family, your ex informs you that he'll have to have the kids that same day for his time with them. And you have to go along, because cheap beats by dre the kids have to celebrate at their dad's house, too. We also are visited by Ghosts of Christmases Past, carrying bittersweet memories of other family celebrations. None of the memories are painless. Bad memories - of, for example, the year your spouse got drunk and tore open all the presents before the kids could get to them - will always be part of our internal photo album, which opens whenever we hear certain carols or smell egg nog. But the good memories of that happy former family - enjoying the perfect Christmas when the kids were so little and sweet - those can be just as painful and disturbing in the midst of the chaos of a blending family's labor pains. We Wish For A Merry Christmas So, the seasonal insanity of casque beats by dre pro the holidays isn't the sole property of stepfamilies.
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